“We must celebrate our small wins, big wins, all of the wins” Kamili
I have seen a consistent theme this week working with my clients of not celebrating their accomplishments. I’ve heard “It feels fake,” “I just don’t like it” “it feel like I be doing too much” “No therapist not me” “I don’t like me or nothing about me.” When an individual is suffering from mental illness such as General Anxiety Disorder (GAD) or Major Depressive Disorder (MDD) life can become a chore and the tendency to forgo caring for our mind, body, soul, goals, and healthy relationships can become easy to neglect. Over time, the behavior to neglect breeds disappointment, lack of self-esteem, and low self-value.
I was asked how someone changes this. It starts with changing your belief about your everyday life. Cleaning out that stinking thinking that you don’t matter so how you are showing up and living doesn’t matter. The change begins when you decide to think differently about YOU! Your dreams, goals, and life does matter, and your behaviors must exemplify that. Change your behavior and celebrate the implementation of that changed behavior no matter how small it may seem. Small ones such as picking up the phone to seek out a therapist, taking care of your daily hygiene, cleaning your room, or going for a ten-minute walk. Celebrating your wins even the ones you may consider to be small may be huge for an individual suffering from GAD or MDD.
So, you say therapist I’m not suffering from either I just don’t like celebrating me. I would urge you to seek out a therapist and explore when and where you learned this behavior, it’s possible it’s tied to a childhood experience, it’s possible it’s a behavior to keep you safe, and it’s also possible it could be causing more emotional harm than good.
We must celebrate our small wins, big wins all of the wins. No one can take away what we know. When we complete a task or goal, we know what we can do. Knowing, builds your self-esteem and motivation to complete other tasks and bigger goals. The feeling that you had a goal, focused, and completed it will encourage you to repeat the process. It will help build further success in the future. It’s said that change and growth are promoted through positive emotions more than through disciplined practice so family I urge you to celebrate all of your wins.
Kamili I celebrate you this first day of the last month of the 1st quarter of 2023 for taking all your raggedy, fear, not knowing adding your magic, and determination to build and not bury.